When you are going to be a parent soon, one of the frequent questions you get asked is, “Do you have any names picked out?” I inherently dislike this question for reasons that I cannot quite explain. I suppose it’s simply that I don’t like explaining my tentative choices to people unless I have made a decision and thus made them not tentative. Our list of potential names could change at any moment, and in the end, we’re only going with one, so what’s the point in sharing the whole list with people?
The weirdest thing, however, is that people are constantly surprised that we don’t have a name picked out already. It seems to be the norm now to prename all your children. This, frankly, boggles my mind. How can you name someone you’ve never seen before? What if their looks or personality don’t fit the name you decided on months ago? Frankly, I’m not even entirely confident that we’ll end up using one of the names on our short list.
Despite our explanation that we’d like to meet the little fella before saddling him with a name by which he will be known for the rest of his life, people are still shocked. Some people have asked us if we’ll just have Baby Boy on the birth certificate, which is apparently what you get when you don’t decide before heading home from the hospital. Seriously, I think there are probably much worse things in life than having a birth certificate that says Baby Boy. After all, nobody’s going to call you that or come up with ways to turn it into an unfortunate nickname.
Of course, all this means that during the last nine months, we have not had a name with which to refer to our baby. We’ve mostly called him things like The Little Critter or Squirrel Baby, and those have worked well enough, especially since he’s been active enough to warrant an appellation like Critter. In the past week or two, I’ve increasingly started thinking of him as one of the two names that we’re seriously considering. It’s a little strange to have a name pop randomly into my head as I’m thinking about it, and it’s stranger that it’s not consistent.
At any rate, it’ll probably be only a few more days of this, and then we’ll have to start deciding for real. I’m still hoping to sneak Hroðgar onto the list while Brinestone is still all drugged up.